They call me crazy!

Desires many I go chasing
But this is the only moment I am embracing

between living in the NOW 
and dreaming what is to come
I do everything insane
or everything I do is insane!

I did not choose to be me,
I sculpted myself to be so!

And hey you,
who just called me crazy...
Come let me show you thee
what you have been missing is being ME!

Hi!

I was wondering if I really need something to talk about in my blog. 

Why not just drop in to say hi and check out how many actually respond to it.

Wait a minute, why do I expect a response for everything I do or say.

I know I shouldn't expect but I still do...

I know I shouldn't say something but I still do...

I know I shouldn't hunt for compliments, but I still do... bcoz I like it for the feel good factor and anyway it causes no harm to others, then why not...

I know I shouldn't post every blabber that crosses my mind... but I still do for the same reason posted above!!!

I'm Loving it!!

By the way, Hi!

Meeting expectations!!!

Being a trainer, every session begins by understanding the expectations of the audience.

And we need to be up-front about it so as to set the expectations. And still, there are always gaps left unfilled. This is simply because each person has their own level of expectations based on their existing knowledge.

The picture you see below ia an example of setting expectations and living up to it. This is close to what reality is but we need all 3. isnt it?

 

In business , we have found strategies to understand customer expectations and we aso have surveys and feedback forms to understand the mindset of people.

But, what I wonder is the strategy to be used in personal life, if at all there is one.

I don't need a technique or a tool to measure the expectations of my loved ones.It either sounds rude or funny when we think about it. Think again, is that not what we all try to do anyways? 

We judge them, analyse them, hold them under magnifying glass and finally stick to our perceptions of them and their expectations. We hardly give them space. 

"If I do not understand atleast let me ask... but no... that would want me to let go my ego... I must be just right... I am not assuming... am only logically coming to this conclusion and I very well ahve my reasons... nobody can blame me... why would they? I am always right or atleast most of the times... I know what is expected and am confident about it..."

The intra-personal conflict is so easily resolved... because we have a ready choice of our PERCEPTION as a logical reason. Do we realise that others stand exactly where we do... on the pedestal of perception and we are all blessed with our own pedestal and are standing alone whereever we are.

Let us try to put this in a very simple way. Others have expectations just like us. Just like us they expect to be understood and thus meet their expectations. This small realisation is a known to all but practices by few. It might not be possible by all of us at all the times...but atleast some of us can try it at some of the times and fill that gap of expectation vs satisfaction.

And one additional note to this thought... Let us begin expecting from ourselves... that way we would be closer to other's expectations!!!

Forgive and forget...

it is so easy to say 'sorry'... but is it equally easy to forgive?

oh yes! 

it is probably one of the easiest things... because we have been doing it all the time...

a recent facebook status post brought back a deep realisation...

we forgive ourselves for our mistakes - big n small,

then why is that we hate others for a single mistake?

i knw you surely will come up with a number of reasons justifying how we cannot forgive everyone... n forgive in all situations... n forgive every action...

I would go by a simple rule... 

Type A - if i am expecting to be forgiven, i should be ready to forgive...

Type B - if i am a person strict with myself... where i make sure i deserve a punishment for my actions n do not deserve to be forgiven... then i probably have the right to justify me not forgiving another...

So, which type are u?

Even if you are a type B person, remember justifications are also our perceptions n you never know what justifications the other person would come with...

That reminds me of another facebook status message... 

"Before you judge my life, my past or my character... Walk in my shoes, walk the path I have traveled, live my sorrow, my abuse, my doubts, my fear , my pain and my laughter! Remember, "Judge not lest ye be judged." Everyone has their own story! When you've lived my life, then you can judge me!" 

So the next time you meet someone... let go your prejudice and accept the person for who he or she is...

It is her 'birth'day too...

India has one of the highest maternal mortality rate.

Read this article!!!

From ancient times, before we had the medical procedure of C - section, labour was only a natural process left into the hands of Gods and mid-wifes.The cry of the baby brings joy which would remain only if the mother survives the ordeal for the next few hours or even days. But many mothers have literally given life to the new life as they lose theirs in the process.

In India especially becoming a mother was always considered as rebirth for the woman and womanhood. I know my mother was born again twice. 

So this birthday I realise it is her birthday too. Also, exclusively my 'Apna' Mother's day.

Mom, I love you and Happy Birthday to you!!!